After my divorce, I told myself I would never get married again, and then I met my husband. We had a fairytale love story. Two old friends reunited years after their first meeting and falling fast in love. I was so excited to start my life with the man of my dreams. I thought I knew what I was doing and what to expect. Spoiler alert, I didn’t.
I was so not prepared for the conflict I’d have with the exes, the court battles, the tension that happens when two worlds combine, or the stress it would cause my relationship.
My husband and I both attended counseling together, and as individuals. It helped us weather the storm. It saved our marriage. But I still wasn’t “happy,” and we still had the same arguments over and over.
I desperately wanted help with navigating the unique challenges that we faced as a blended family. So I researched, trying to find any possible support for blended families. I read articles, blogs, and listened to podcasts but struggled to implement anything that actually helped consistently. Then, I found coaching.
Coaching gave me control of my life again. I stopped feeling helpless, hopeless, and at a loss. I became mentally and emotionally resilient. I stopped feeling at the mercy of custody and child support orders and started feeling confident and secure in my world again.
I was able to transform my marriage.
We finally became a team instead of always being at odds. I learned how to draw and maintain appropriate boundaries to protect our relationship and our family. It also stopped the emotional roller coaster associated with dealing with exes and fostered healthy co-parenting.
I know this might seem impossible right now. But, if I can do it, so can you. You just have to let me show you how. You ready?
-Billiejo Mullett, BS, RN, CLC